“Why do so many men seek fulfillment and satisfaction where it cannot be found? Why do we settle for counterfeits rather than the real thing? Why do we believe the media’s distortions of masculinity?
We believe them because they are counterfeits, caricatures, and sterotypes. All such falsehoods depend upon a basis of truth, which they oversimplify, distort, or exaggerate.
When the media portray men as libidinous, aggressive, and greedy, they’re grossly distorting authentic male roles - fatherly roles - namely, life-giver, protector, and provider. In the normal course of family life, a father is progenitor; he gives life, through the sexual expression of his love for his wife. In the normal course of family life, a father is the one who defends the family from outside threats; in extreme cases that can involve a violent intervention. In the normal course of family life, a father provides for his wife and children, as wage-earner and breadwinner, but also as a wise counselor, patient teacher, and steady emotional support.
What happens when these roles are severed from one another, severed from fatherhood, and deprived of their religious meaning, which is deeply theological? What happens when, we encounter men in society as we find them in the media. When it happens to us personally, we feel continually frustrated, confused, dissatisfied, and unfulfilled.”
-Excerpts from “Many Are Called” by Scott Hahn